Weightloss Diaries 1

A lot of times in life, desperate situations call for desperate measures. I am 86.6kg light but my goal weight is 74kg. The target may look as a piece of cake but i haven’t been able to keep it together long enough to reach the goal.

Since having my third son my weight has been fluctuating in the eighties range. When I was three months pregnant with my third son, i weighed seventy five kilos, so why on earth should I settle at being a size fourteen?

I’ve been reluctant to change my wardrobe of size 10/12 to suit my current weight and so I find myself wearing over and over again a handleful of size 14/16 clothes. It never used to be this difficult for me to lose weight but lately my motivation hasn’t been strong enough or should I say I haven’t been disciplined enough. Well, all that has to change!

So I ask myself, what habits am I willing to acquire, to enable me lose weight and get fit?

1. No meals after 6pm

2. Eat mainly fruits, vegetables, proteins and nuts (No rice, yam, sweets and flour)until i hit 74kg

3. Exercise 5 times a week

4. Do the water therapy – A bottle of water first thing in the morning and 8 glasses through out the day.

It’s easy to put all these down but I know for sure, self discipline is what it takes to accomplish the goal. Thats the reason I’m documenting this. I want to be accountable to you my readers. I will document my victories and challenges. I’ll be sharing my progress at least twice a week here.

I have an interesting direction for this blog but i want to first take charge of my weight and fitness and I’ll be glad to have you join me. Please do well to like, share and follow my blog. Welcome to my journey!

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Our Mumu Don Do!

Mr President’s Speech

I am happy to address you all today on my return from medical treatment in the United Kingdom. It is by the grace of Almighty Allah that I am here with you. I want to begin by thanking every Nigerian who prayed for my quick recovery. I also wish to thank those who lost patience with me. I understand your feeling. We have so much work to do in this country that every minute lost is a disservice to our people. My special thanks goes to the Vice President, Prof. Yemi Osinbajo. He held the fort in my absence. I’m very pleased with his performance despite the difficulties our political structure imposed on him. He did the job of leading this nation so well that I have a renewed confidence in our leaders of tomorrow. I also thank the National Assembly, my ministers, the members of the judiciary, our security forces and civil servants across this nation who go to work everyday and look up at the picture of their leader who had been absent for long and still dedicate themselves to the task of the day. Being sick is a human condition. While we pray that sickness does not befall even our worst enemies, it is one of those life experiences that ‘will come when it will come’. For those concerned about the financial burden my illness must have exerted on our nation, I want to dispel your fears. Though as your president I am entitled to receive medical treatment anywhere that my doctors deemed best, I’m waiving that right. My family and friends will take care of my medical bills. As leaders, we must lead by example. I promised to end medical tourism if elected president of Nigeria. Two years after, it has not happened. You do not have to go far to know that it has not happened. My absence from Nigeria for 103 days makes it evident. It is my personal failure. I own up to it, the same way I own up to all that we promised but have not accomplished. As part of my renewed commitment to this country, in my remaining days as your president, I will make sure that no president of Nigeria will again have the need to travel abroad to receive medical treatment. We have done greater things in the past. We can do this. In the last two years, we have opened the window of opportunities for tens of thousands of our young people through the N-Power entrepreneur scheme. We have school children in 13 states of Nigeria receiving free lunch at school as part of our Homegrown School Feeding Programme. In 9 states, over 26,000 are receiving N5,000 stipend a month from Conditional Cash Transfer Programme. We have stabilized the Naira and the economy. No matter how raw and uneven it may have been, we have taken a stab at the fight against corruption. Though it is still with us, its wings of impunity have been clipped. And instead of unrelenting on this fight, we are reloading and refocusing. We have made strides here and there, but for many, the change that we promised has not materialized. In some cases, the change has taken many of our people two or three steps backwards. To them, it is hard to preach that stepping back is part of the process needed for a forward push. They may have seen the rams do it, but that does not mean that they will understand it and embrace it when it means doing with less meat in their pot of soup. For me, this period of ailment has been an opportunity for great reflection. If I had an illusion that I would always be with you, that illusion is gone now. I will not always be with you. But I know that Nigeria will always be with you. I, therefore, come back with a renewed commitment to leave a better nation for you all. In the little time that I have left in this role as your president, I want to see a more united Nigeria for all. Our unity can only come if we create an equitable and just nation. I have had time to look at Nigeria from outside. I have watched with great interest how the wheels of the nation work from afar. They are not working well. All that we were afraid of are happening now. We shall confront them. But more importantly, we shall confront the nursery where the anomalies are bred. In re-committing myself to the Nigerian project, I am determined to listen to, and understand, the people at the fringe of our society. More often than not, we fail to give them our ears and assume that what they have to offer has little or nothing to do with our lofty dream for the nation. That, I have come to understand, is a false premise. All voices are needed in the negotiation for the advancement of the Nigerian project. Moving forward, balancing the Nigerian project to give it a solid sense of equity and justice is paramount to me. I want all those who are committed to come to us. I want those at the forefront of the fight for restructuring Nigeria to bring to me proposals and blueprints on how to make things better. I want to balance the seats in the House of Representative to make it fair to all. I want the number of states in each geo-political zones balanced. I want to see the resources of this nation shared in such a way that those from the areas where these resources come from do not feel cheated by the rest. I want to devolve power from the center. I want to free the regions to stand on their own. I want the geopolitical zones enshrined in our constitution. I want the presidency to rotate amongst the zones. The number of local government in each zone should be fair so that local government allocations to each zone would not be lopsided. We need to sit down and articulate the blue print of how to make Nigeria great. I want a master plan of what should be done on my desk in six months. We need them in specific terms. We have to radically transform this country if we want it to survive. I’m looking for a holistic treatment of all that ails us. With the remaining time that we have, we want to set things right to make it easy for those coming behind us. We cannot wait. All along, the military has been the one putting in place constitutions and structures. Our democracy is mature enough that we can do them ourselves in tune with the desires and goals of our peoples. If we can accomplish that, the rest of the task of governing this beautiful country should be a lot easier, not just for this generation but for generations to come. You won’t always have Buhari with you, but my job is to make sure that you will always have a Nigeria, an equitable and just country for all. Political defeat of one section of the country only leads to progressive defeat of the whole nation. I am ready to defend this vision of a new Nigeria with the last breath in me. It is very unfortunate that we have been programmed to believe that in a family, injustice to one does not impact the cohesion and commitment of the other to the family. But it does. It is the reason for all the rumblings we hear in our dear country today. To ensure my commitment to this, in a few weeks, we will convene a meeting in Aso Rock with all the young people who are so dissatisfied with the Nigerian project that they have decided to opt out of it. We want to listen to them and forge a way to regain their trust. The youths of this nation are the most important resource that we have. That should not be just a mantra to be given mere lip service. It is a statement of fact that we need to hold sacrosanct. My generation has played its part. We must have the courage to begin a systematic disengagement so that the next generation can take the lead. I have seen them in technology hubs across Nigeria, on the streets hustling, in schools and in markets. I am confident that they can take this nation to glorious places. If this our present malaise is a spell, it has run its course. Our mumu don do. Thank you for listening and may God bless the Federal Republic of Nigeria.

Hobbies that touch – Crocheting !

I cant remember the first time I held some wool and a crochet in my hands ….perhaps elementary or early high school……what I do know is that a couple of weeks ago I purchased a Fifty naira (N50)crochet and some yarn at Prince Ebeano Supermarket Oniru Lagos…and just like riding a bike I realized you never really forget how to crochet !!!.

The only difference is that I now know what the different stitches are called thanks to my new book I got from the  Palm’s mall-“The Hub books store”!!

Truth is I wanted to channel my creativity into something new. I wanted to make crochet earrings yep.

I recall around 2012, my sister Iyeba,pregnant with her first child attended crocheting classes and I would drop her off at her crochet class and also pick her up…I remember waiting for her to complete a class…I think her goal was to make crochet earrings too.

I never embarked on my earring project but instead …I found myself attempting to  make a beanie cap…or a crochet necklace and now I’m making what seems to be a baby cocoon lol !! It appears I have developed some sort of  Crochet A-D-D !!

My friend just gifted me two crochet books from Canada …so I now have a library of about three crochet books …it would have been four except that I tried to purchase the Crocheted Granny Squares book on Konga but that didn’t work out long story !!

Anyhoo, Im finding out from one of the books that nylon bags or polythene bags or plastic bags or grocery store bags or whatever you call them can also be cut into strips to make PLARN (Plastic bag yarn) which could then be crocheted with a big size 10 crochet pin crocheted into mats,bags etc…but you need a lot of the bags though…….at this point I’m like …are u ever gonna make some crochet earrings ever ?? Oh well !!

So this has become my accountability post …Ill have some nice round crochet earrings by next week …then try to finish that baby cocoon and anything else ….lol!!

 

 

Gender Equality: Did they even check the dictionary?

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Before I even state me case, let me put out the dictionary meaning of gender equality:
“the state in which access to rights or opportunities is unaffected by gender”
another definition…
“is the view that both men and women should receive equal treatment and not be discriminated against based on their gender.”
According to the United Nations “While the world has achieved progress towards gender equality  and women’s empowerment under the Millennium Development Goals (including equal access to primary education between girls and boys), women and girls continue to suffer discrimination and violence in every part of the world.
Gender equality is not only a fundamental human right, but a necessary foundation for a peaceful, prosperous and sustainable world.
Providing women and girls with equal access to education, health care, decent work, and representation in political and economic decision-making processes will fuel sustainable economies and benefit societies and humanity at large.”
MY TAKE:
With the above stated, it beats me how a woman (Olori Wuraola of Ife) supported by some literate women I’ve seen on social media and even men with mothers, wives and daughters will argue against gender equality. I believe some women saying they do not support gender equality believe that if they speak in support of it, it means they are not submissive to their husbands.
Gender equality doesn’t argue against the man being the head of HIS home and making the final decision concerning HIS household with the help of his wife.
The bible in Ephesians 5:22-23 says “Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord. For the husband is head of his wife, just as Christ is the head of the church, His body, of which He is the Savior.”
The bible said the husband is the head of HIS wife, he is not the head of another man’s wife, or daughter, or mother. He is the head of only HIS wife and HIS household.
That being said, I do not understand how roles in the home and in marriage became linked to gender equality.
“Gender equality does not imply that women and men are the same, but that they have equal value and should be accorded equal treatment.”
No well meaning man would want his wife to go out and loose to another man a job opportunity, health care, educational opportunity, business opportunity etc.
simply because she is a woman.
Bill Clinton would not want to see his wife loose the US presidential election to Donald Trump simply because she is a woman. Outside the home, the woman should have equal opportunity at leading. In the home two captains cannot run the ship and the man is the captain who uses the help of his wife to run the ship effectively and everybody should be happy.
A friend argued (in reference to prison sentences) that women do not get the same punishment as men so why should they have equal opportunity?
I beg to differ. The punishment for a woman and man may be different in its outward appearance but equal in the way it affects them. Let me reference the
bible here:
Our God is a just God, He punished Adam and Eve differently but equally : “To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe;
with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” and to the man “Cursed is the ground
because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life.” They say if a man wants to know how painful labour pains and childbirth is, he should try pulling his scrotum (balls) over his head. For women, its easy to be a helpmate to your husband, but stop and imagine the burden they carry around knowing that
they need to provide for their family and they cannot afford to not toil. Even those that abandon their children and wives in developed countries have the law chasing
after them to serve their punishment and provide for their family in the form of child support and alimony. Some women will say there are ways to avoid pains during childbirth (epidural pain medication and caesarian section) but trust me you heal faster when its done naturally. With women that have to go through caesarian for medical reasons, they face so much pain in the healing process. But apart from that, what about the 2-3months of morning sickness? Urghhh, i cant deal!
For the men who don’t find it hard to get a job or who don’t  have to toil for capital to start a business, the burden to never fail, never rest and keep providing is still heavy on the shoulder.
Enough said! Gender equality has nothing to do with the relationship between a man and HIS wife.

Eye Trouble! Control Yourself Darnnit!

I have made a covenant with my eyes; how then could I gaze at a virgin? JOB 31:1

Men, this may not be an easy thing to admit with your wife sitting right next to you. But let’s be honest—you’ll likely relate to the story I’m about to tell. I was seated in a car with another Christian leader—a good friend of mine. We were both away from home, without our wives, waiting for a colleague who had just gone inside a store. And as we sat there, a woman walked by who was, well, drop-dead gorgeous. I caught sight of her as she entered the store, and then turned back to our conversation.

When she walked by again, by God’s grace (or the fear of my own reputation being spoiled), I summoned up enough self-control to look away. But I did notice my friend’s eyes lingering as she walked on to her car. Knowing we were both fighting the same battle, I casually said, “Hey, you can look at her once, you can look at her twice, but if you look at her that long . . .”

We laughed. We knew. Guys, there’s nothing wrong with appreciating a woman’s beauty. But we all know in an instant when we’ve reached that point where we’re no longer simply noticing her but have begun enjoying her and letting our minds become a playground of lustful thoughts. That’s when Fred Stoeker, co-author of Every Man’s Battle, says we must heed the covenant of Job 31:1. With the same impulsive quickness that makes us pull our hands back from a hot stove, we must discipline ourselves to “bounce” our eyes away from her. Yes, it is every man’s battle, all right. However, it is a battle we can win.

DISCUSS

Husbands, help your wives understand that this admission of struggle is not caused by being unsatisfied with her. It is a struggle with temptation, lust, sin—a struggle with yourself.

PRAY

Wives, pray for your husband’s in this area. Each of you should ask God for help with any deep areas of sin and temptation, especially those that can come between the two of you. Trust Him for the strength to be obedient.

(From ‘Moments with You Couples Devotional’ by Dennis & Barbara Rainey)

DID I MARRY THE RIGHT PERSON?

During one of our seminars, a woman asked a common question. She said, “How do I know if I married the right person?” I noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so I said, “It depends. Is that your husband?” In all seriousness, she answered, “How do you know?”            

Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it is weighing on your mind. Here is the answer.

EVERY relationship has a cycle. In the beginning, you fall in love with your spouse. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies.           

Falling in love with your spouse/partner was not hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You did not have to DO anything. That is why it is called “falling” in love… Because it is happening TO YOU.    

People in love sometimes say, “I was swept of my feet.” Think about the imagery of that expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something came along and happened TO YOU.           

Falling in love is easy. It is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few years of marriage/courtship, the euphoria of love fades. It is the natural cycle of EVERY relationship. Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse’s idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts.     

The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship, but if you think about your marriage, you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.             

At this point, you and/or your spouse/partner might start asking, “Did I marry the right person? or am I dating the right person?” And as you and your spouse reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when marriages/ relationships breakdown. People blame their spouse for their unhappiness and look outside their marriage/relationship for fulfilment.       

Extramarital fulfilment comes in all shapes and sizes. Infidelity is the most obvious (mostly men). But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances.

But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your marriage/relationship, It lies within it. I’m not saying that you couldn’t fall in love with someone else, You could, & TEMPORARILY you’d feel better. But you’d be in the same situation a few years later. Because (listen carefully to this):    

THE KEY TO SUCCEEDING IN MARRIAGE/RELATIONSHIP IS NOT FINDING THE RIGHT PERSON, IT IS LEARNING TO LOVE THE PERSON YOU FOUND.         

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. It will NEVER just happen to you. You cannot “find” LASTING love. You have to “make” it day in and day out. That is why we have the__expression “the labour of love” because it takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it takes WISDOM . You have to know WHAT TO DO to make your marriage/relationship work.          

Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your spouse) to succeed with your marriage/relationship.               

Just as there are physical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. Just as the right diet and exercise program makes you physically stronger, certain habits in your relationship WILL make your marriage stronger. It is a direct cause and effect. If you know and apply the laws, the results are predictable. ..you can “make” love. Love in marriage/relationship is indeed a “decision”.. . Not just a feeling.

Remember this always-“God determines who walks into our life, It is up to us to decide who we let walk away, who we let stay, and who we refuse to let go.”

Author : Unknown

My Take: Respect Him; Love Her!

The Joys of Having a Big Sister!

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My big sister Tonte!

Sista! That’s what I call her, that’s what we (siblings) all call her.

Her name is Tonte, Thanteh, Opulency, Dhanatela, Tus and so on depending on who is referring to her, but for me she is simply Sista.

Growing up I was so proud of her, so proud to have her as my sister. She was beautiful and gosh! there was never a dull moment when she was around. We used to look forward to her coming home. I remember coming home from school one day and walking into the children’s sitting room. The length of the window seal was lined with disney movies that came in those big transparent plastic jackets. I felt like I was in disney land. There, my beautiful big sister was spread out on the long couch taking a nap. She was wearing a royal blue skirt suit and she looked like sleeping beauty- face white as snow. I don’t know how to describe the Joy I felt but I still remember it vividly till this day.

We were 8 children but somehow my sis managed to satisfy all her 7 siblings with gifts. She just took certain things upon herself that she didn’t have to, like making sure I had a special hair do for Christmas,  making sure we had cute outfits for Buguma beach party and a swell time there too.  She’s so generous and I often wondered if it was a big sister thing. I mean I love my younger brother and if he was ever in real need I’ve  always given to him to the best of my ability but that’s not the kind of generosity I’m talking about. Let me give an instance…My sis, my younger brother and I were out of town together and we went to grab a burger. Being the lady that I am (batting my eyelids), I was taking my time eating and savouring my burger. Now my little brother ate his up in no time. He looks over at  me and asks me to give him mine. Gosh! I was appalled. I was like  ‘why should I give you mine? you just ate yours’. At that point my sis looked over at him and said ‘Do you want some more?’, He said yes and she handed hers to him. My heart sunk and I began to analyse the situation. I wondered if I was not a good older sister. I analysed and analysed and analysed and came to the conclusion that I’ve been good to my little brother but my older sister has been amazing to us all and no one can match her generosity over the years. She’s a delight and always the life of the party.

She’s been there in so many ways…Let me show you a letter my sis sent to me when  i was heartbroken many years ago… Screenshot_2015-08-12-16-18-19-1Screenshot_2015-08-13-12-50-00-1Screenshot_2015-08-13-12-55-07-1

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My au naturele sister…

She sent me the book and it was a daily motivational book that saw me through.  My sister is priceless and I love her so…. Anyone out there with a big sister like mine?

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My sister taking a dip…